RECOVERING FROM RELATIONSHIP
Ending any kind of relationship is found to become a traumatic experience to both parties involved, Relationships involve strong interpersonal communication skills that would allow the parties involved to cope and eventually heal emotionally. There is way to heal from any kind of relationship. Here I would talk about in way Buddhism of healing from relationship. When you first start dating you never realize how much breakup hurts. Dealing with the loss of a serious relationship is hard. After the relationship ends you start to feel sorry for yourself. No matter how hard you try, the pain doesn’t go away. But there are ways to deal with your heartbreak. In Buddhism you can find help to mend a broken heart and deal with emotional pain.
Buddhism has a lot to say about suffering and there are likely few times we suffer more intensely than when we break up with a romantic partner. It feels like you may never recover. What to do with a broken heart? If there would only be a one step plan, an immediate cure or medication that would heal your heart immediately? Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. Buddha as a guide to heal your heart and bundled his own experiences and lessons in his book Love Hurts. With great humor, Rinzler points out the pitfalls in dealing with a broken heart, gives tips and makes sure that a smile appears on your face.
His advice is practical and based on his own experience with loss and heartbreak. It’s a great, practical offering of consolation for someone you know who’s going through a tough time, and for yourself when you’re looking for the light at the end of the tunnel in your own situation. Rinzler did not find a quick fix for heart pain.
Healing is a matter of time. You are strong enough to face it all, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. The pain you are currently experiencing will not remain the same. Everything changes. Even the greatest sadness. Great heartbreak is traumatic; it shocks the system. So do not forget to take good care of yourself. For example getting more sleep than you think you need, eating well, or at least eating (we often forget to when we’re depressed)meditating and exercising in whatever way makes sense to you. Rinzler also advises you to keep an open heart and be compassionate. In the Budhist tradition we refer to beings willing to keep their heart open no matter what as bodhisattvas. Bodhi is a Sanskrit word that can be translated as ‘open’ or ‘awake.’ Sattva can be translated from Sanskrit as ‘being’ or ‘warrior.’
Rinzler said our whole life a training in heartbreak and advises to not try to stop it but make it part of your spiritual path. Our whole life is a training in heartbreak, whether we acknowledge it or not. By showing up for it, day in and day out, we learn to make it a part of our spiritual path as opposed to something we have to hide from. Last but no least we can also practice to and with a way peace about in good perspective or gratitude.
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